Arrangements, Eulogies, Emotions: Help Dealing with Loss

April 10th, 2010 by admin

Losing a person that matters to you is never something that you want to think about.  When a person does pass away, there are so many things to handle; funeral plans, flowers, eulogies, burial or cremation arrangements.  As if you are not facing enough already, then you also have your personal feelings to deal with.  Loss can leave you feeling many different emotions.  Sadness and longing are two emotions that are very strong after a loss.  As your emotions take over, you may find that you are left with a feeling of numbness.  You may wonder why your grief doesn’t feel as strong as you think that it should.  This is a perfectly normal reaction as your senses become overwhelmed.  It is almost as if you start acting on auto-pilot.

Funeral directors can be a great help in the planning process.  They can assist with choosing a casket and securing a plot if there will be a burial.  In the case of cremation, the director will show you both full sized and personal sized urns.  A local florist will create lovely arrangements based on the desired flowers.  As far as eulogies, a funeral director will recommend that you contact the clergy if the deceased was a spiritual person.  If you would like a more personalized dedication to your loved one, you may want to consider writing and performing the eulogy yourself.  The process of preparing may feel a bit daunting, but you can find templates of eulogies online that can help you along.  

It is important to remember that there is no right or wrong way to feel after you experience the death of someone who meant so much to you.  The range of emotions you experience may feel completely natural, or they may leave you wondering why you feel the way that you do.  Take the help of friends and family that offer it.  Take the time to grieve when you feel the timing is right.  Understand that the well wishes of friends may be hard to hear, but know that you are cared for and they mean the best.  If someone offers to run the errands, look up outlines of eulogies, or accompany you to the florist, and you feel okay with that, accept their graciousness and know that you are not being a burden.  If you could use some help with something else, do not be afraid to ask.  People want to help, they just do not always know if the help is what you need at the time.  Most of all, try to take care of yourself at this confusing and upsetting time.

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